I'm actually suprised that many posters found this so cheesy. My T has actually said many of these things using different words and in various contexts. Some examples:
"I sense you might be feeling a little nervous as we begin our session today. Is that right?"
This is something she's said when it was very obvious that something bad had happened on a trip I took and she was being intuitive (right word?) about my feelings.
"As I hear your talk about your brother, I notice something starts to come up in me, right here, in my chest. Can I check that out with you? I’m feeling…an ache, maybe some sadness, a loneliness. Are you feeling anything like that right now?"
She said something similar to me this past week but, unlike the example, didn't tell me what she was feeling in hopes that I would be able to discover/uncover my own feelings (which is something I have a really hard time doing).
"Something just shifted; did something just change for you? Can you let me know what you’re feeling in your body right now?"
If I start to dissociate or most commonly, if I'm shutting down/shutting her out. And, as aforementioned, because I have trouble identifying feelings we discuss it in terms of bodily context.
"Can you feel some compassion for that part that feels upset, that needs to feel upset? If your daughter Kelly were that upset, how would you feel toward her? How would you comfort or soothe her?"
When I confessed an experience I had as a child (one of those secrets that no one else will ever know but that causes deep shame) she asked me to try to feel some compassion for that child part of me who was doing the best she could at the time (I could not; and still don't really). And the second part was similar to when we discussed my inability to allow myself to cry because I was always told that I was being dramatic or annoying or other when I did. She asked if I had a daughter who was crying - how would I respond.
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