I need to know...

So her discomfort doesn't continue to grow, stuffed down and painfully so, for not wanting to be 'that' woman who says no to exes, or just this one in particular. .
Invading privacy doesn't make things right, but where, then, are people allowed to draw lines and boundaries?

They don't have to be each other's only friends, but with all this private conversing, where's the time for each other, work, hobbies, family and couple friend time?