so i met with other T. it went well. i told him all about my T and what went on this morning. it felt good to talk about it with someone. he said that the message i got was pretty vague and i seemed to jump to conclusions about it meaning that T is depressed. then the friend who sent me the message sent me a text and called me. she said that she worded it wrong on the message. she said it seemed more like Ts girlfriend was saying that T is just stressed and needs a break from work. she said Ts girlfriend was laughing and smiling and talking about how other Ts hair turned grey once he started working here. so now i think that T is just needing a break from work right now. i feel a lot better about it after my friend cleared things up and i got to talk to other T. and i told my recovery coach about it too. so yeah i think i just freaked out and blew things out of proportion. thanks for ur support here guys, it means a lot to me. it really does.