Wow seems as if this thread turned into a whole other sweater(still making my ownself laugh)!!! To me the forums are always open to the people to write what ever they want, with this brings the types who want to fit in by believing they too have something like others here. I am diagnosed NPD, this is not something to be proud of as so many make it like a trophy to hold high and be praised by others. We are broken people, to try and say one or two lines of the type of person you are makes you more of a jer#$ff rather than a person with a personality disorder. The depths of our issues are not made up of us ONLY not caring about other people in or around our lives. The depths are far greater and if the diagnosed ones actually wrote more on their ways you still would not be able to understand fully. I myself have no empathy whether its a stranger, a friend or even my own family. Plain and simple my brain is not wired to understand you or anyone else's problems. I think many have it wrong, empathy I don't believe is something you turn on and off like a switch. You either have it or you don't!! Myself equates to many years of living for myself not the ones close to me. What worked best for me was whatever I thought was best for me and only me. Can I go on and on? Of course but after reading whats written here I really don't see the point. Anyways I have written many different things here so many of you I am sure have read prior posts not a newbie trying to make waves!!!! If you seek understanding this forum is far from the one you want to post in. Especially if your reading up on Narc traits and the real ones that are here are not going to have this for you!!!