We are up to day 5 of him not going to work! So if he decides to go int he next two days he will have 4 days on his paycheck. It should be 10 days! I got home last night and H was in bed. He got up within a couple of minutes and didn't say more than 10 words to me in the first hour I was home. He was acting all sick. He tells me he has felt like he was going to throw up all day. Tells me he's been burping and pooping all day and only had 2 pieces of pizza and a hard cider all day and then dumps half the cider he was drinking down the drain in front of me just to show me how sick he is. Aw poor baby! Let me get out my little violin and play it for you! So now it wasn't just that you couldn't sleep all night it is now that you have just felt HORRIBLE all day. Then he sits around while I make a batch of pasta salad. I'm in the next room for 30 minutes making it and he has no clue. I get done and come into the living room with him and a few minutes later he goes to the fridge and goes "Oh when did you make this?" Um just now. He goes "Oh that sounds good and makes himself a big bowl of pasta salad and golly gee if he isn't already feeling better! He isn't acting sick at all and is joking and eating. He tells me he has one more sick day he can use tomorrow if he isn't feeling well. Gee I'm sure you won't be feeling well will you?! He cries wolf so much I don't know when he actually IS sick anymore! He just got his vacation and sick time renewed on his anniversary at the end of May and it hasn't even been 2 months and his sick time is gone and god knows how much, if any, vacation he has left! Now 10 months for you to take off how many unpaid days before you can take paid days again.

Maybe, just maybe, if he would actually do some projects while he was taking all this time off it could at least amount to something, but he hasn't done one thing. He had a 3 day weekend over the 4th and now a week off and hasn't touched the fire pit project that I keep hearing again and again "Oh we have GOT to get this done". If I hear that one more time without any action being taken I will scream. Add that to continually hearing about how we have got to learn how to pickle and how I need to look up how to pickle and I need to buy a picking kit. Notice how he says WE need to learn how to pickle but I have to look up how to do it and buy the kit! I have no desire to learn or do it. If you want to do it fine, but don't sit there and tell me that I need to. He has no patience with looking up how to do it so I should. A week off you could have had that done and a new gate put on the fence. Or you could have diagnosed what is wrong with your motorcycle. Or you could have gone to Lowes with your $100 gift card you keep saying you are going to go use and get materials for stuff but you don't leave the house. There was a house for sale two doors down when we bought ours and the guy moved in about a month later. That guy has been working non stop on his house and it looks great. H keeps talking to him saying" Oh yeah we're going to get to doing that here too pretty soon" I can't help but laugh and think "When? 10 years from now...if then?

It is to the point where I don't get mad anymore. He almost seems to find it funny how upset I get with him not working. I think I have to just push my anger away because if I don't it effects me in every other aspect of my life. I can't focus at work or at anything. It's gotten to the point where I just don't care anymore. I know that I will have to pay all the bills and the mortgage. I know that he will just get deeper in debt. I don't want to divorce him. In fact, I just don't have it in me. I would honestly feel bad about the whole thing. I just want him to go to work everyday like every other person I know. That shouldn't be much to ask of a 46 year old man!

I just checked our phone records and see H got a text from his boss about 10:30 this morning. H replied back right away. I am dying to know what was said and I will check his phone when I get home while he is otherwise occupied. I am betting his manager said "So what's been going on? Why haven't you been at work?" to which H most likely replied "Oh I've been having REALLY bad back issues and have barely been able to get out of bed. Should be in tomorrow though". And he won't go in tomorrow...he'll just give him hope that he'll be there. Funny though because this whole thing started a week ago with him not able to come into work because he had a dentist appt. and has turned into this whole other thing.

I'll let everyone know what was said after I get a chance to look at the message. Any bets? This whole situation is so sad that it's become comical to me and I mine as well laugh than cry. I even try to Google "Husband has job and doesn't go to work but doesn't get fired" to see who else out there has this problem and nothing comes up. There's plenty of "Husband won't get a job" or "Husband can't keep a job" but nothing like what I'm dealing with!