Thank you everyone, I guess I've just been in denial a bit and letting myself believe that things will change. I need to find a way to kick him into action so that he knows that he seriously needs to sort it out and that I wont keep just ignoring it or giving him all the time in the world. Guess that I need to put myself first for a change and think about my future. I just hope whatever I say or do really does work because even though I have my doubts I do love him so much and wouldn't want to lose him. Hopefully I mean that much to him that he sorts things out. Thank you for your support and advice it really helps and means a lot!