Sweetie, that sounds really tough. Do you have a support system in the new town or are you on your own?
Not finding your work interesting is probably contributing to your anxiety. That's what happens to me. If I'm not really interested and focused on what I'm doing, my mind wanders and that's when the anxiety creeps in and takes over. Not having deadlines doesn't help. I NEED deadlines to keep me moving.
Have you talked to your boss at all about why you have missed work? Perhaps if you knew you were ill, that might make you feel more relaxed. He might be very understanding. If you don't feel comfortable with that, maybe you could just set up a meeting with him and tell him you want to discuss how you're doing at the job and what his expectations are. It's common in new jobs to wonder if we're doing enough and worry that we're not as productive as we THINK we should be. Your boss would probably appreciate you being proactive in that way and you might get some clearer parameters -- rather than feeling like you're aimlessly plugging away at projects with no deadline. What I have found many times is that my own expectations for myself are much higher than others' expectations. You might find out from your boss that he thinks you're doing great and then you could stop worrying so much... or he might give you some clearer direction so you feel more on top of things.
Getting at least some things into the open might help alleviate some of your anxiety. It's sounds like you're worrying so much about the unknown and dreading the worst. I've been there. I know what it feels like... and the anxiety just multiplies. You need to do something that makes you feel like you have a bit more control.
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