Wow...no matter what he's done, Pittymom....YOU are the one who needs help here. What you've gone thru, the tubal pregnancy (which is awful in so many ways both physically and emotionally) and then on top of it...literally, his infidelity.....I absolutely understand why you would feel as you do.

Never mind him, or your marriage...both of those need to be put on the back burner for now. Perspective, darlin. YOU need to see someone to help YOU with this horrible time you've been thru...the events are traumatic and it's no wonder you are so hurt. Please Please Please....find a therapist for yourself....you need someone...YOU need someone...fruck him...fruck the marriage if it ends up that way. You can't continue to feel this awful hurt, and you deserve someone to help you.

Once YOU'RE better....then you can decide what you want of your life, your marriage, your husband. Right now.....you are the important one. You matter...your hurt matters...your disillusionment matters.

Please help yourself. Stop trying to put the shards back together with sticky tape....you already know it's not working. Please help yourself first.

The rest, can wait. For YOU.