Sweepy I don't think you necessarily need to feel sad about someone's passing. I sat with my uncle and held his hand when he passed... I mostly felt empathy for my father because it was his last living sibling and he was so upset...

I think depending on the circumstances (mostly long illnesses)... Lots of people feel relief... For the one to die to be out of pain and really for the process or vigil to be over...

For me it is usually after a funeral that I start to grieve....not before...I've always been one of those people who hold it together in crisis then fall apart when it's all over

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family