Thanks everybody for their good wishes. It does feel great to have a good session and I'll try to take the suggestion of telling my T next time. One problem I have is that even good things make me anxious so now I can't sleep, but I'm trying to just focus on the good session.

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I would be interested to hear more about your couples therapy vs. individual therapy. Are you still in couples therapy too? Does your partner also do individual therapy? Was couples therapy helpful for you? I am in individual therapy and we may soon add some couples therapy. T and I are brainstorming about the best way to do this.

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Sunrise - I'll try to answer any questions you have about couples therapy. Yes, I'm still in couples therapy. It has been a little over a year. I believe now I've had issues with anxiety and depression for a long time, but I had never seen a therapist before. After a year of couples therapy, I finally started hinting to the therapist the amount of anxiety I was experiencing and how bad I felt. Started SI as an adult which I think is a little unusual. She picked up on it and suggested I make an apt to see her on my own and now I see her for both couples and individual.

Every few weeks my T will ask me if it is still working to use her for both. I read somewhere that as long as the therapist is good it is not an issue for them to be both, it is more if it is holding back the client in anyway.

Yes, my husband also sees an individual therapist for depression and anxiety (great couple I know! no wonder we have issues!) He saw an individual therapist (different T than the one we see together) for several years before we decided to also get couples therapy. So, now we each have individual sessions and also have couples. I think it is a very good thing to do both. The issues are of course related, but in couples therapy the focus is on the "marriage" as the client. In individual therapy the focus is on one person and a I get a lot out of both. I think it has helped our communication a lot.