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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Idk, hankster. All my Ts told me I have attachment issues because of unmet needs. I just want to be happy and not frustrated and anxious. I want to not want my T. I want the SE to work. I always want my Ts to be what they can't be to me. Everything! Mother, partner, friend, maybe sister. I never had s sister. Whatever I want is unreasonable. I just want T to help me get over all of this stuff but I give up. It's something I have to live with like my allergies. Addiction to T. It's in my blood or something. I wish I weren't me any more!  |
Maybe it's not that what you want is unreasonable but that you're trying to get something from therapy that can only come from working on a relationship in the outside world, like with a partner, as you alluded to wanting a mother/partner/friend/sister. That your attachment needs need to be met through a more regular, typical attachment.
There's something very deeply satisfying about having a partner or very close, deep female relationships like that which can be replicated in therapy, but only an hour at a time, occasionally.
It's like prostitution in one sense, emotional prostitution, that surrogacy.
I don't mean that in an offensive way or as a slur. I think escorts do respectable work and important, but that they act as more of a bridge, if anything, a temporary substitute, not a partner.