Stop making excuses for him. Anyone who seriously wants a job will find a way of working & earning money if they are physically & mentally able. Your excuses are just enabling his lazy self.

You said something in one of your posts about wanting to "fix him".....that is co-dependent behavior. Is that really the way you want to live the rest of your life.

THEY DON'T CHANGE......I threw away 33 years but luckily 15 of those years I had my own engineering career to hide away from the marriage in....but when I couldn't hide any longer....it was living in HELL.

You sound like you are more afraid of leaving because you don't have a place to leave to.....which was part of my problem...I didn't believe in being involved with another guy & I had no place to go so ended up living separated under the same roof for 13 years of those 33. I would have been better off being homeless than living the way I did.