They all seem equally important but drinking can cause more issues so maybe you could start there? I keep a list for therapy too. My bullet list only has a few key words to keep me on track. When I come home from therapy, I take whatever I didn't talk about on my list and add it to my next list because something is bound to come from therapy.

I don't always choose the most important and sometimes it ticks me off. I don't believe it's intentional but now I feel like I have a few things on the back burner that needs to be talked about before I can get to what's been happening the past several weeks.

I wouldn't be too quick to blame myself for drama in my therapeutic relationship. It takes two and self blame doesn't help even if I'm causing it to avoid the bigger issues. It's all connected.

Best of luck to you. I hope it's a productive session.

edited to say~ I've changed my mind. Perna is right.

If you deal with the relationship first it might be easier to work on the other things.