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Originally Posted by Parley
I wouldn't be too quick to blame myself for drama in my therapeutic relationship. It takes two and self blame doesn't help even if I' causing it to avoid the bigger issues. It's all connected.
Best of luck to you. I hope it's a productive session.
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Originally Posted by Perna
I would start with these. All the other feelings about your life at the moment, how you feel about your roommate, etc. is not going to go anywhere? But until you deal with how you feel about who you are talking with, talking with them about anything else is not going to work too well?
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The thing is that I do literally make up drama that doesn't exist in the real world to avoid talking/thinking about stuff. I know saying that sounds like either self blame or even a potentially offensive and very wrong way to describe part of BPD, but it is neither self blame nor anything to do with BPD.
Basically, I'll be upset about something totally unrelated to LCM. I'll use being upset about her as a way to avoid dealing with the deeper issue. Or we'll have a session and I won't tell her what is really bothering me and I'll instead tell her how I feel about her. It's the opposite problem than with my other past T's. I am more comfortable telling LCM how I feel about her than I am about things going wrong in my life.
At the same time, I'm not blaming myself for being upset for last week. She is unpredictable. She knows this. I have called her on it. It is getting better. I can also handle those feelings on my own. I talked to her nearly every day via text. So I know she was there for me even though I didn't get an hour to talk with our voices.