I hate that you're being treated that way! But just remember, just because he said those things , DOESN'T mean you have to OWN them! Consider the sour ce. You say he's an abusive alcoholic? Who is HE to judge YOU? He needs to look in the mirror worry about his own sad situation and stop trying to tear you down to make himself feel better about what He is! I hope you find the strength to do what's best for You!