Whenever I see anything, even something specific, I can not/do not personally want to do anything about I refocus on myself and what I am doing and want to do. The "glass" ceiling and women's wages, etc. are like airbrushed women in women's magazines or bad TV shows to me, not something that directly affects me or that I have to look at. There are so many things that are "unfair" or not the way I like or would do/arrange things but I do not accept that as my problem/responsibility at this time.

Yesterday I had a delivery person deliver something I was supposed to sign for but he blew me off. I told him I needed to sign for it, what was being delivered and his response was, "No it's not!" (like I do not know what I ordered/am having delivered :-) and then when I requested he stay while I opened the box to show him. He read the label on the box and it was from a company of letters (like RSHKNC) totally meaningless to either of us and used that as "proof" it could not be what I said it was and then walked/drove away.

Now I could call the delivery company and find out whether the delivery person was just more of a fool than I took him for or if the package was mishandled somewhere else in the process or if the company they picked up from were liars about what was in the package, etc. As it is, technically those ineligible for delivery of this product could get delivery and/or something could come out and the driver and delivery company would be very legally vulnerable and liable and I don't think the delivery company execs would like that?

However, I'm not in the mood to go through all that. I received delivery of what I ordered/paid for and it was completely legal for me, I cannot be even remotely endangered by the delivery. The delivery company and company picked up from and anyone before that are safe too, from THIS delivery (but not from later illegal deliveries possible because of this delivery or from fallout if anyone "official"/injured later finds out about this delivery).

I draw the line at what I want to do, how far I want to invest my time and effort into helping others fix their mistakes. I am not a bad person, I'm an extremely helpful person, more so than many people I know. My therapist commented on it once, said she wouldn't do "that" when I was telling a story of what I had done for a friend.

I have a friend who would probably call the delivery company just to get the driver in trouble for blowing him off and treating him disrespectfully. But the incident is over now, it cannot be corrected. That too may or may not blow up in the driver's face later if someone who "cares" more complains about his attitude. I do not feel bad about his attitude, it's his. I know I was correct but I do not have any great need (any more :-) to get the rest of the world to know/believe that or get an apology from him or whatever. I dealt with that particular problem in therapy 15+ years ago. I had a boss looking for me once when we had a multi-room/story office and when he finally found me he asked "Where were you?" and I told him and he immediately said, "No you weren't!" confusing heck out of me as I frantically tried to figure out where I was if I wasn't where I was? I know myself well enough to know I am where I am when I am there