Yes, do not respect/give credence to this man's words, he is not a "husband"/partner/mate, you are just legally shackled next to him at this point.

When I was working on my eating habits at work one time, I decided to give the vending machine in the break room a name and personality like a troll. "Harold" became dirty, slimy, stinking, "nasty" ugly, etc. and I got pleasure/fun from the exercise because I came to believe my fantasy such that I became a little bit afraid of the machine when I was in the break room alone!

I would remind yourself of your husband's ugliness in that way rather than of what he said about you. What you focus on (the ugliness of the vending machine rather than the candy bars that were part of it) can make a difference in how you feel and how you act. Your husband sounds like an insensitive drunken slob. I would think of him as such and be disgusted with him rather than pay attention to what he has to say/what comes out of his disgusting mouth?