OMO sez: One man's opinion is you should have been out of that marriage long ago. Giving him permission to have a FB seems a weak excuse to try to prolong the relationship. I went through a marriage such as yours, she could do without sex where as i thought it should be a daily activity, many health benefits if nothing else. 9 years into the marriage we had a serious conversation and ended up agreeing on a amicable divorce. I have been in a very 'healthy' relationship for years now with a woman who shares my enjoyment for intimacy and physical closeness. I have to admit, we don't likeall the same things, but we do enjoy each others company, are friends and share enough similar interests beyond the sexual that i feel this relationship will be quite long term and mutually enjoyable and beneficial.