sometimes i just need time to process. i've misinterpreted something and then emailed my t and been like, 'so this is what you said, this is what i hear, is this what you meant?' and he'll respond to me. it's taken some training, but now i sort of reflexively ask him in therapy 'what do you mean by that?' or 'can you elaborate?'

you could practice asking during a non-emotional moment, even if you're relatively certain of her meaning.

sorry you had a rough go of it