It does help me. I notice how what I say and how I act reflects immediately with how I relate to others. It shows me ugly parts of myself that I may have been with people from my past. The relationship can also just be used as an indicator of how I'm doing outside of the room. I bring him all my baggage. Nine times out of ten, if I'm feeling needy, desperate, or angry in my own personal life, I'll end up either consciously or unconsciously directing that toward him. The relationship can be a tool in finding out what I need and want.

"She had blue skin, and so did he. He kept it hid, and so did she. They searched for blue, their whole life through, then passed right by- and never knew."