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Originally Posted by Elsewhere
On the contrary, I think your thinking is very logical. You feel a connection (which is quite real, btw, just as you are well aware...and it's excellent you can feel it and see it...and now you can validate it for yourself!) and then it's "over" because your time is up. It's hard to reconcile not being able to continue that connection once the session is over.
I was talking to one of my Ts about attachment vs. connection recently, and I said that my sense of attachment to both of my Ts stays the same (it's pretty healthy and secure), but my sense of connection may change many times within a session and also when I am not in a session...it varies (but it's still there...sometimes just stronger than others) . Having a secure attachment is helpful because I know I don't need to depend on them...and I think you are working towards that, but it's really painful in the beginning.
I second MKAC regarding the progress you have made...I actually joined PC in 2010 (left and came back again a few times, but have always lurked  ), and I think you have made such excellent strides, you should be proud!  |
Elsewhere, what a nice compliment you gave me! Thank you very much.
You must have had a different "name" then. Do you mind sharing it? It's okay if you don't want to.
Yes, I think I now have a secure attachment to my T but the connection isn't always there. That's why I can cry and say I hate her, but I know how much she cares about me and that when she suggests these limits and changes, I know she's doing it for me, not to hurt me.
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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid
Just want to thank you for this thread, Rainbow. I relate to everything you describe. It's so painful. Take good care of yourself. You're doing so very well. |
Thank you! You take care of yourself too.