I know others suggested writing or art or taking time to process it and that does help. Most things, when I'm able to take the time to process, I can communicate extremely well. The problem is processing in the moment.

I couldn't think logically. I accepted my perception as truth which in turn triggered sui thoughts. ...
But I think I will definitely bring it up to her that I need to practice asking her to clarify her meaning (even if it's clear...)!