ah. we've talked about it briefly and the relationship is important, but we don't spend a lot of time focused on it. it's mainly about getting me to be open. to break down walls. my t is my safe space for letting someone see me for me after years of rejection and loneliness and that's what makes him valuable to me as a relationship. his acceptance translates into my everyday life. i'm more open with my hubs because i've practiced being open with him. i'm more open with my friends because i've rehearsed what being open is like with him and i've had him respond positively which replaces the negative reinforcements i've had.