Skywhite....I was overwhelmed with fear that my T would leave me. We are over 18 months in, and still at difficult times they resurface and it is all I can think about! But once I finally talked about it with my T, well, firstly he was not surprised and secondly he has spent some genuine time and care to reassure me that this won't happen(unless he dies or has to move away, and thats anoter whole story!).

By talking about it with him it took some of the power out of the feeling, and each time I talk it reduces a bit more. I even ask him from time to time if he is annoyed with me and he never is. I tell him he ought to be sometimes, as that may be easier for me to understand and deal with than him being a constant kind presence in the room! Go figure......