I'm the odd one out, I think, because while the relationship with my T is more important than I had thought it would be before starting therapy, I don't see how my behaviour in that relationship could impact relationships outside T's office. The T relationship is different from all other possible relationships - that's part of the therapy package, you get something you can't get anywhere else, and so the fact that T doesn't judge me (because he is a T) does not in any way mean that I can stop fearing other people's judgment. The fact that T is interested in what I have to say (because he is a T) does not mean that I suddenly become interesting to other people, who are not paid to listen to me. And it is not as if I can apply how I behave in T's office to any outside situations - I don't understand how that could be possible.

I have one specific instance where it did help with an outside problem: I told T about a reaction I had to something that happened in choir practice, thinking that I'd get a discussion about why I overreact in certain situations. Instead, T said that he thought what happened was something that he would have reacted to, as well, and that gave me the strength to bring it up with my choir director the next day. I guess that is a way that the T relationship affected an outside relationship, because I saw how another human reacted in the same way I did, which is not exactly something I am used to seeing.