On Friday, my boyfriend and I will make 7 months together. However, I have known him since I was 19 years old and we dealt with each other off and on until we recently decided to have a committed relationship. By the way I am now 33 years old and he is 36. He came back to NY from NC to live with me and from the very beginning he had "rules".

"Don't talk to your guy friends." "Change your phone number." "Tell your guy friends not to call the house." I have a handful of friends to begin with and yes a few od them are male, and I have known them since I was in the single digits, I am supposed to all of a sudden cut them off because I have a new boyfriend? I tried to explain that my friends are my friends and they have been here before you and they will be here after you... This got me nowhere, so I did the things I could do, changed my cell phone number that I have had for 12 years and asked my male bestfriend to not call for a while until I can get my boyfriend to feel comfortable. I at the time still had my Facebook page and was able to communicate with friends there.

My boyfriend began to question me as to whom I'm talking to and about what on FB, all thr while he too has a FB page, I admit I told him I wasn't talking to anyone via Facebook, when indeed I was still having friendly conversation with my friends. One day he hacks my FB account and pretends to be me talking to ONLY all of the males on my page, saying things like "you love me?" Or "when are we going to have sex again?" All of this is happening ehile I am at work, so of course my job phone begins to ring off of the hook because all of the people he's talking to know its not me and are wondering what is happening. Thia same day he called my father's home early in the morning, he had not and still has not met my father, prompting my father to call me at work too.

He also used to take my phone and look in it to try and "catch me" cheating or talking to other males. The taking of the phone and sneaking and checking the phone went on for more than a month until one day he strafdled me and wrestled the phone from me and there after three the ohone against the wall causing irreparable damage.

I started searching for counselors and trying to get him to attend seasions with me so that we could work together on his trust issues. Everytime we had an appointment je would change his mind about attending. During the FB incident he ran across a year old conversation between me and an ex of mine, and proceeded to copy and past this conversation to that ex's wife, I have no idea what has happened between him and his wife to this day.

Afterwards we sat and talked and supposedly agreed to work on our relationship, but the arguments have only gotten worse, everyday I am being accused of something; I am either sneaking off to my mother's building / block to meet up with some guy or I am having sex with my co workers, or I am intentionally leaving home late to catch up with and flirt with the bus driver or I go into a certain store to flirt with the owners or workers and the best one yet I am looking at guys while I am in the street walking with him, trying to gain their attention so I can build a relationship witb a aid guys...

I am at my wits end and I no longer know what to do, somebody please help! I called myself trying to prove to him that I am not cheating with my words but more so my sctions, because I don't go out and he comes to my job whenever he feels like it and I know he's "checking" to see what I'm doing. I feel like if he would just go to work and concentrate on getting money he might not have so much time to come up with these alligations. I could be wrong though, because he came to me hurt and broken from past relationships and all I want to do is be happy, but happy I am not. Where do I to from here?

~LostInHarlem