would it help to have more self-disclosure? idk. i've googled my t, but honestly have forgotten most of what i found because he's very easy and open and is willing to answer my nosy questions. for me, because of my history, i need a t who is cool with self-disclosure.

my guess is that if he expected you'd look him up on fb, then you probably googled him. i don't think you have to give him the gory details if it's something you need to confess. 'look, i feel terrible, but i totally googled you. i just wanted to know more about you.' and then maybe you can explore that.