So I have a long history of getting obsessed with maternal figures. They all used to be teachers, but now I get obsessed with T. My obsession is very self destructive and it causes me a great deal of harm. I want to stop. I don't want to be dysfunctional like this. But I don't know how, and another part of me doesn't want me to stop the obsession. It likes all the fantasies, and sexual pleasure.

I'm being open with my therapist about what's going on, but I don't really see how she is going to be able to help me (especially because her kindness just makes me obsess more). How is therapy suppose to help with this. Has anyone here had their therapist help them with this? What did they do that helped?