I like what this writer has to say:

" the ingredients of a person are not so easily pegged. “You can find things you don’t have the back story on, meaning there is loads of room for misinterpretation, and your imagination going wild…. To form an opinion on that person based on your ‘knowledge’ — and that’s assuming that everything on the internet is fact, a dangerous assumption — is really unfair and does you both a disservice.”

Many things require extensive research and planning. Going to the moon? Rewiring the electricity in your house? Stepping into the Octagon? By all means, Google at will, learn everything you can. But human connection is different. It can’t be forced or rushed; information is proffered in time with the growing intimacy. It is earned. Accessing the information on someone all at once interferes with the health of the dynamic, not to mention that it ruins the inherent magic. “I like to learn things about (people) through experience,” my friend said. I had to agree. Maybe I wouldn’t Google new acquaintances anymore. Maybe I would let the process unfold organically."