Rainbows87 I'm sorry you're going thru this....honestly, 'in love' relationships do last, or CAN last, but the fact is, you have to want it, and be ready to work at it. The 'honeymooon' phase, is just that. It's fun, exciting etc. but after all is said and done, there has to be a deeper feeling to keep the relationship going, and to get over the daily stresses.

I know you said that it was mostly the lack of appreciation that was getting to you, and everything else was minor...somehow I think that's not entirely true. I think you already were questioning what was going on with her attitude toward you which you finally spoke to her of.

I think her comment 'do people truly STAY in love' is a cop out IMO. Her nonchalant reaction to your questions, and the bomb of not being 'in love' is telling. Unfortunately, in spite of all you've done, I don't know if she even WANTS to be in a relationship with you. Sorry to say that.

Thing, is....do YOU want to be in a relationship with someone who's only saving grace is a partnership in a memory? Two years is a long time, true....but one should never stay in a relationship which is unsatisfying or hurtful, just because of the time invested. I think you have some considering to do...possible couples counselling...although, I don't actually see her agreeing to that either.

It might be time to just end it, so you can be open to someone who will appreciate you for how you treat them, and will treat you with the same respect and love. I just don't think she's ever going to. And I don't think you do, either.