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Old Jul 17, 2014, 10:55 PM
murray murray is offline
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This topic always makes me feel so anxious. I have never googled my T or anyone else that I know. To me it feels like it would be a violation.
The funny thing is I know my T googles people, including clients without hesitation. This probably means that he doesn't have much of a problem with being googled himself. But I do. So I'm sort of on the other side of this. I have asked my T to at least not google me in front of me or tell me about it at all.
Just because something is out there about me doesn't mean that I want it out there. I do not use any social media- facebook, linkedin, etc. This forum is really the only place I ever post and even on here I am very hesitant to post anymore.
When my ex-h did some awful things and was arrested and ended up in the paper, I was very exposed through no fault of my own. People googled away because their curiosity was piqued and it was a horrible feeling to know that I had no privacy. There was such a horrible feeling of violation and vulnerability. The sordid details of my personal life (as well as the mundane ones) were thrown in my face by acquaintances, customers, business contacts...it was horrible.

I know I am old and not up with the times but I really do feel that people should have a right to some privacy.

One thing that struck me in one of the comments was that someone found that their T had changed her name....this is so disturbing to me. Maybe it was a safety issue for the T and there was a reason for her to change her name and that someone can find that out feels wrong to me.
Thanks for this!
feralkittymom