Thank you. I am prepared to take all advice on board even if some of the replies appear a little more sharp tongued than I would have liked. It's not that I want an affair. Is that I am more venting my frustrations because I feel I can't make my own marriage work. So I wanted to know if there was other options. Maybe I need to sit her down also and find out if she herself is happy and if there is anything I can do for her as well as me. I don't know. All I know is that I personally feel rejected and unloved and unwanted by her in more ways than one