You need to find other ways to feel loved and wanted by her. That's what I did with my husband, because I love him very much and chose not to leave him despite the lack of frequent sex. I feel loved by him when we hold hands, when we have long conversations about nothing and everything, and when we hug and even go grocery shopping and work together as a team. I feel wanted when he says nice things to me, and when he wants to cuddle with me. There are other ways to get what you are seeking than sex. That's why a marriage can work in those other ways. But if that's not enough for you, you really need to consider what you would benefit from by having meaningless sex with another woman. I mean if it didn't work the first time, why consider it again? Let out your frustrations all you need to, that is what PC is for. Glad you have found this place to vent, and I see you have just joined. Know also, that people are going to have very different views, and not take things so lightly all the time. It is the attitude of people thinking their spouse owes them sex that makes for sexual abuse in marriages. I don't tolerate it at all. It's call coercion, which is basically manipulating someone or guilt tripping someone into having sex, which can be almost as damaging as real sexual assault. It was for me. So, just know other people have their opinions and emotions about certain issues. I was being blunt to make a point, not to abuse you like you have accused me of. You seem to need a wake up call. Something needs to change in your marriage, and I suggest you have counseling soon.