Which is why although I may have got my back up a little and felt I need to defend myself, I still take on board all advice. I would never force my wife to do anything. Neither physically or mentally. The same cannot be said for her unfortunately as she used psychological manipulation to get me to go back to her the first time. Especially using the threat of me not seeing my child ever again. Also using sex inorder toget me back. Which in turn is probably why i am here asking these questions. But that is a different story. And I have to forgive her for that and understand why she did it.