The most loving thing we can do for those around us is to take care of ourselves. I once tried to stay out of the hospital for my daughter. Looking back, she would have been much better off if I had gone in when I first realized I should. She went through a lot of hell she didn't have to. I also got out before I was really ready. But again, I thought she needed me, which she did, but she needed a sane whole me, not the symptomatic me. Just some thoughts. The best of luck to you! Annie