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Originally Posted by NoIdeaWhatToDo
I kind of thought that's what we had planned when he said he'd do the kids' stuff on his days off. We have one family hobby that we all do, and he and I do it twice a week in the evening. I don't feel like I can take on any more, but it's not an activity where I get a break from the kids or him, and it's an activity that (while I have enjoyed it) was something he wanted to do as a family, and it's important to him in that respect. It's starting to wear me down, though, and I just don't feel like I have anything left in me anymore. Even if I didn't do it, though, I would then have the kids at home with me those two days while he's there, so it certainly wouldn't be any better than going to the class.
Part of me is just so frustrated that he can be so passionate about so many things, to the point of distraction, and there's just nothing in my life that's like that for me. And I don't feel like I have the time or energy to devote to either figuring out what would make me feel like that, or to actually being able to participate in anything else. So it makes it even harder that I feel guilty for being jealous of his passion and enjoyment. And I don't want to take that from him, even a little bit, because it's got to be one of the best things in the world to have that. So how do I figure out how to not resent him?
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You don't want to take away the things that make him happy, those things are important to have, to keep you sane. The problem is that YOU don't have anything for yourself! Take time just for you. Either go out either alone, or with just you and your girlfriends. I had a girls group that we use to get together once a month, we'd have a potluck, and we'd play board games, and have wine and piņata coldAda. Everybody would bring a dish or a dish and dessert. We always hd it at who evers didn't have kid's, and also happened to have a big enough house to hold use all, and sometimes we'd rotate. But if there were kids in the home, no one wanted to go there
Anyway, that can be a really fun way for you to feel like you are getting time out. Even though it was only once a month, we all looked forward to it, and it really does the trick. It refreshes you. We sometimes had backyard BBQ for the whole families in summertime with our kids and spouses. And at Christmas, we'd all wear our Jammies, and and have a Dirty Santa Christmas exchange, and do all appetizers and desserts for our dinner. We would do themes during the year. It was really fun. Unfortunately, a lot of my friends have moved.
I miss them.