My boyfriend of almost three years (will be three years next month) still lives in the midwest whereas I moved to the east coast back in October to help my ailing sister. We have seen each other twice since then (December and May) and while it has been hell being apart we had been surviving on love and determination. But now thanks to his hatred of rejection, our plan of him moving out here has been canceled because he has been rejected by 5 jobs and is nearing the ultimatum stage of me moving back or us breaking up, but he loves me and says he doesn't want to hold me back or give me the ultimatum. I am now considering moving back but I don't want to quit my job (no matter how crappy) just to break up because he is clingy/needy and doesn't want to put the full effort in now that it's not an easy college relationship anymore.

I love him more than life but I dread returning to my home state that is essentially a black hole for potential and hope. And encouraging my boyfriend with his job hunt "stresses him out and makes him want to scream." So I have two choices; stay east and leave him behind or return and try to stay together.