It's fine to feel angry. You don't need to feel guilty about it. You probably don't want to upset him ? it's that why you feel guilty ?

It seems someone needs to learn about responsibility and grow up.

Have a talk with him without any distraction. Tell him he can enjoy his hobbies etc, at the same time he need to help out more so you can have some rest, coz you are very worn off. And you need some time for hobbies and friends outings too. Tell him your concern. I wouldn't yell or burst off, just try saying in a neutral way. It's like taking to a co-worker or customre or manager, about things, and try to say it in a way that is not too harsh. You can also brainstorm or draft before the talk, so you kind of rehearsed once and less likely to be out of control and burst.

And for things that you tell him to do, but he didn't do it. If it's nothing big deal....just let to be, because if every time you fix it for him, he wouldn't learn responsibility. May be his cell phone bill. Or may be it means no lunch, coz he forgot to withdrawal money, and so the family will have crackers for lunch. etc.

May be take a vacation (a week), just you and your friends. Tell him the trip include your friendS so you are not the only one making decision of the date and time of the trip (just in case he said he is busy and wants you to delay for the trip) Leave all the family work and kids to him for a week. Perhaps then he will understand how tire you are.