Thank you all and if I do go to counselling (which I know needs to be done for definite) I will let this thread know. As I said earlier, although I may not necessarily agree with kriskira, I still take the advice on board as it is the flip side of the coin. The side of my wife and how she will feel about it all. So it is still relavent for me to gather this information and try to utilise it to either save my marriage or close another chapter. Thank you all