For me it's usually not a matter of not thinking it's ok to ask, or being too shy to do it. I simply do not reflect in terms of "I wonder if he actually means x". That applies in and outside therapy: unless we are discussing some subject that I have a lot of knowledge about, it usually doesn't occur to me that there could be more than one way to interpret something until I think about it afterwards.

Is this something that can actually be learnt? If so, how?