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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
Wow. I would definitely not stay in a relationship with you if you told me I couldn't go and visit a friend in prison - and further more taking that as a sign of disrespect to you? That's ridiculous. No one can tell me who I can and cannot be friends with, nor can anyone tell me what I can and cannot do with my time.
She agreed to the picture BEFORE she was in a relationship with you. There is nothing wrong with her doing that. I'd consider it if I had a friend ask, although I'd probably just print them off a picture of a model or something instead, haha. She immediately withdrew her agreement once she began a relationship with you. That shows that she respects you and values you.
Just because she is friends with him and is alright with him thinking about her being naked.... doesn't mean that she's interested in having any sort of sexual relationship with him.
I have to say that I pretty well agree with her - you are being controlling, you are trying to change her, and you are being incredibly jealous for no reason. She hasn't done anything to warrant your jealousy and distrust - she's been honest with you about the things that he's requested - she sure didn't have to tell you what he asked for! And instead, you treat her like she's guilty of cheating on you and decide to dictate to her what she can do in regards to her friendships... you're the one being disrespecful, not her.
Sorry if that's harsh, but I really think you are in the wrong here. She deserves your trust and respect.
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Actually she wasnt honest about anything. What she told me was that he didnt say much other than prison was lonely and talk about his cell mate. She even said, you can read the letters if you dont believe and trust me in which i declined. Later i had a gut feeling and took her up on her offer to read the letters in which she declined saying i didnt need to that she had already told me what was said. That made my suspicion go up. I eventually found out what they said. Her being dishonest made me wonder why she had kept that biormation from me. When i asked her why he would feel comfortable askibg for a photo of that content, she said she had no clue that it was random. Because she had lied i was wary to believe her. And i DIDNT TELL HER SHE COULDNT GO. When she asked me, i asked her in return "put yourself in my shoes, would you be comfortable with me going to see my ex in jail who still wanted to be with and didnt respect the boundaries of said friendship by asking for a "sexy" picture of me half naked?" She said she wouldnt like it.