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Originally Posted by JDHold
I expected an answer as such. In my poibt of view, FRIENDS dont ask FRIENDS for a SEXY PHOTO especially for THOSE KIND OF INTENTIONS. How is that plausible? You are correct, no picture exists, not to my knowledge atleast but for me, the boundaries of said friendship are blurred when an ex you dated can ask for such a picture knpwing exactly why it was asked for. Not SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL TO LOOK AT as you claim thats all it would be.
How is it not disrespectful for her to WANT to go see an EX who clearly still has feelings for and wants to be back with her and she knows it. In my eyes, thats giving him hope that theres a chance of getting back together. And i originally didnt object to her visiting him right away, i asked her if she would be okay and comfortable if i went to visit my ex in prison who still wanted to be back with me. Her response was no she wouldnt like it. So how am i insecure or jealous or disrespectful or controlling??
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i think in most cases the boundaries will always be blurred when you choose to remain friends with an ex..usually this is why it doesn't work out well.yes there is always the threat of interaction..that's where trust and honesty come in. if i am in a relationship, i usually don't indulge in entertaining interaction with my ex's for that reason and they respect that.
when i'm single again...well. BUT ANYWAYS, LOL! i liked that you put the ball in her lap..appropriate decision & keep you from looking like an a**hole.
with that being said the onus is on her, and truthfully depending on the facility you can kiss and hold hands once when you come in and again when you leave( but obviously NO SEX,LOL!) so i can understand SOME concern
if he clearly has feelings, then i agree she shouldn't be feeding into that. it's time to set up boundaries and stick to the letters.things can get a lil out of hand( not much, of course) but a parting hug could turn into a kiss..especially if you guys are fighting.
so i don't know if i would use the term"disrespectful" but i do believe that it is indeed..playing with fire and inviting trouble and no one needs that.
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