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Originally Posted by froggygirl
My boyfriend of almost three years (will be three years next month) still lives in the midwest whereas I moved to the east coast back in October to help my ailing sister. We have seen each other twice since then (December and May) and while it has been hell being apart we had been surviving on love and determination. But now thanks to his hatred of rejection, our plan of him moving out here has been canceled because he has been rejected by 5 jobs and is nearing the ultimatum stage of me moving back or us breaking up, but he loves me and says he doesn't want to hold me back or give me the ultimatum. I am now considering moving back but I don't want to quit my job (no matter how crappy) just to break up because he is clingy/needy and doesn't want to put the full effort in now that it's not an easy college relationship anymore.
I love him more than life but I dread returning to my home state that is essentially a black hole for potential and hope. And encouraging my boyfriend with his job hunt "stresses him out and makes him want to scream." So I have two choices; stay east and leave him behind or return and try to stay together.
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IMHO i think you should move back, from what i understand.you have a crappy job there and the reason you went there was to help your ailing sister.
i feel you have done your job as a sister fair enough and long enough, if you love him it's time to put some time into the relationship.
maybe i could understand if it was a "really good job"..heh heh, i don't believe in such a thing personally.but that doesn't matter LOL. but it's a crappy one, there are plenty of those all over the midwest..ha ha, i know, i live here!
in every state there is potential & hope..you have to look for it or make it.
i live in ohio..the a**hole of the earth..but i'm doing just fine and making great money, it's out there..you just gotta find it.
it sounds like he has been accommodating by at least attempting to come out there, it's not working..i think it's your turn now..unless of course you really don't care too much about the relationship and him anymore, which of course the decision would be to leave him behind and stay where you are and start over with someone new.
if you love him, YOU SHOULD BE WITH HIM. if you don't let him go & let him heal and start over. a crappy job shouldn't have precedence over the love of your life.jobs,especially crappy ones are easy to find..good partners are not, i know from experience, trust me. if you love him, ditch the crap job and go to your honey so you two can be together!!
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