((((Hugs)))) I'm so sorry you feel betrayed.

There are many different ways to react to something like this, and you might experience many of them. The best thing is to respond instead of continuing to react. You are still in control.

There is nothing "wrong" with needing EAP...and they were proper in doing this... but I am sorry they didn't discuss it with you.

You could talk with them further... and ask just what signs they saw that caused them to refer you. Ask them about the conversation they had with mgmt... I would definitely talk with them, even if it's only to politely say you don't think you needed the referral.

There IS a chance that you would benefit from more assistance... I know it's a tough thing to face.

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