it sounds like to me your brother is an insufferable a**hole. SEPARATE TOILET PAPER? REALLY??? what are you guys supposed to do color code it??

one dish in the sink and he complains?? OMG..i couldn't have left fast enough.
no wonder he doesn't have any friends or a gf..no one would tolerate someone so uptight.

my ex was OCD and bi polar ( would never allow me to do the dishes..which was just fine with me) she never went to any of those extremes!

he knew you guys situation & totally threw you guys to the wolves..i would NEVER forgive it! EVER, brother or not..family relation has no bearing on what you can and cannot get away with with me.

i wouldn't be on speaking terms either..you MUST be out of the house by the end of the day BEFORE i get home WTF?? the whole planet earth would have to freeze over twice before i spoke to him again!

and the nerve to say NO HARD FEELINGS! HA HA HA you must be kidding.
just reading your post reminds me of how much i hate my family, it really does..they are a bunch of raging jerks too, but wow i must admit i am totally blown away!

next time he text, i would tell him "don't text me again or i will file charges"
hopefully you and your bf can get a place far far away from this a**hole!