Waiting4, he can't afford counseling and hates doctors. I can't afford counseling at the moment because my insurance from my job won't cover it.

Emma, I know and I am trying, which is one of the reasons I posted as it can be hard to see past one's own emotions.

Trying, I have been accommodating as well, both times we have seen each other I flew back to the midwest. My main worry is if I go back he might get comfortable and decide he never wants to leave and then I will have given up one crappy job in an area where I could get work in my desired field for a crappy job in the midwest where the best I can hope to be is a baby mama like the mass majority who remain there. If we hadn't agreed to a plan of action prior to my moving I would be more understanding rather than frustrated.

Perna, I have applied to 94 jobs in the state I am in right now. I applied to 20 jobs in the state and city he is in and I only got a single call back (which is why I stopped applying because bills needed paying) and that is from the job I currently have. I am just bitter that his "trying" has only been for 5 jobs and all required clearance or specialization whereas I had applied to crappy office jobs that I knew I'd hate just to be with him and he isn't making the same effort. I have been supportive and wouldn't bring it up for months because he was so touchy about it, he applies to one job each time I bring it up and 5 jobs applications over the course of 9 months is a joke.
We had discussed other states, he still has a freak out and says there are no jobs he will get in whichever state we are discussing and we have discussed 6 states but he doesn't want to leave his comfort zone or risk more rejection from other jobs.

Chipper, I know! Which is part of why I am hesitant. We graduated last year, he still lives with his parents which means I'd have to join him (his folks have offered to let me live with them, but have also been rather negative about our future together).