If there is a T reading this, please explain what the big deal is about limited self-disclosure from the therapist, used only to benefit us in a certain situation. The detriment; I don't understand. Why can't I know more. My T has no family stuff in the office, but many knick knacks that do tell a bit. I peaked into the office next to his and she has family photos all around. I do know a lot more about his life than he is aware of via internet, etc. and wonder if I was to tell him, would that change the whole relationship dynamic. I think he would have a heart attack. Or, would he be pissed at me? Knowing more about him has helped me to know he is really authentic and I have grown to trust him, slowly; which I though impossible. He does share a fair amount with me, but is oh so guarded. What for? Would the professional line blur. Would I begin to feel too special or friend-like. Would I become jealous (I already am and have told him) He has stretched the boundaries often with me and I feel we have a unique bond. He has told me he has to "handle" me in a certan way and has adjusted his normal approach and it has really worked well for us. Maybe I need a clinical explanation, cuz I just don' get it! I do get the fact the therapy is all about the client. But, in reality is all about the connection and quality of the alliance. So two people are really involved.