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Jul 18, 2014, 02:03 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2014
Location: no where
Posts: 18
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Originally Posted by waiting4
I'm so sorry you're going thru this and yes, he sounds like he is totally irrational. If he has agreed to divorce you he has NO RIGHT to your phone, emails...any of that. However, the way he is now, confronting him might be physically dangerous to you.
However, it sounds like emotionally he's just as dangerous. Is there a way you could go to a shelter for awhile...just to be away from him? It concerns me that he might completely lose it (seems to be ramping up his efforts to completely obliterate any loving feeling for you....to what reason? So he can feel justified in harming you????)
Please take care, and don't let things get too far. If you have any family at all that might be able to stay with you, or perhaps a friend??? I'm just very concerned for your safety.
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I've never gone to the shelter here in my area and i'm just afraid that doing that will just lead to more problems. I did the whole separation for domestic violence, restraining order thing back in 2000. It was hell and I was stupid enough to take him back. I know what I'm headed for now and this time he's a much bigger monster to deal with.
I'm just watching what I say and do and being careful. I know him really well so I know when he's about to explode. he won't lay on hand on me though, that I know for sure. He's too smart for that cause that would leave evidence and he wants to keep showing everyone that he's the victim and is a total good guy.
He already told me he wouldn't lay a hand on me no matter what I do cause he won't screw his life up for me. that he has too much to loose.. but what he won't stop doing is screaming, constant name calling & the whole none stop asking questions all the time and won't let me go unless I answer things over and over and over again all the time.
My family is 3 hours away, i know if i tell them they will help but I also know that for me to make that call or ask help that means it's do or die.. move out or kick him out.. and start the fight. cause there's no going back after that and I'm not sure if i'm ready for that..
honestly i'm emotionally tired, i'm exhausted and scared shitless of his anger and his yelling..
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