Hi withered-rose, I read everyone else's posts here, and I respect all of their opinions, but here is my take on your situation. Yes, he may do a few household chores, contribute a little bit of money to the monthly expenses, make a few meals, put up with your ever changing emotional status, and hold you close when you wake in the night from a terror. Those are all great things, and are you lucky to have them? Sure. But what I read at the end of your statement that really bothered me was that he is a habitual liar. And when someone is a habitual liar to the point of lying about something as trivial as steeling your child's candy, what else is he lying to you about. Because they just can't help themselves. It's ingrained into their brains. Lying is as easy to them as breathing is to us. He's already proven it to you with the stealing from his work. Right now it's small things as far as you know. If he has this entitlement feeling, it won't get better. I've seen and knownt others like this. What happens when he ends up putting you in the middle of receiving stolen property? Even if you don't know, if it's in your house, your possession, you will be charged. Are you willing to take that chance? You already said that he is very against therapy. Even if you get him to go, if he's only going to appease you, and not to get help, he's not going to change. Okay, off my soap box now, and sorry so long, I just wanted you to have both sides so you could really make an informed decision. You did say that the two of you together are toxic. I've had relationships like that, and sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, sometimes you have to love yourself first, and end the relationship because it's best for both of you.