I agree with rider. And I'm scared for you....if you are in this position now, it's only going to get worse the closer he gets to actually leaving. Right now you ARE emotionally exhausted, and don't think for ONE MINUTE he doesn't know that. You need to call your family...if it means it's over, then that's what it means, but the safety of you and you child is paramount here, and supercedes anything else.

And rider is right...what he is saying is 'care' because he knows you can't afford the apt yourself, is cr*p...it's another way to control you, and to give himself the opportunity to control you (i.e. checking your emails, photos etc). He's not doing ANYTHING for you right now, out of the goodness of his heart.

You need to go, or get a family member to come and stay and make HIM go...and the fact you already had a restraining order out on him, makes it clear....

I'm sorry for your situation...I know it hurts. But you're NOT completely to blame, and he has NO right to hurt you as he is doing....so if you don't stop this for yourself, do it for your child...she doesn't deserve to grow up thinking this is how relationships go....because healthy relationships DON'T go this way.

And you do want to prevent her from finding herself where you are right now, when she is older...because to her it's familiar, even as it's hurtful.

Take care